Surviving in this craziness

I dunno if it's the upbringing or training that results in this absolutely repulsive way of getting things across. I resent parents and teachers telling their kids that they "got everything wrong". It's so off-putting! If effort has been put in, then the kids can't be blamed because they didn't purposely get them wrong. It's because they find it difficult to understand the concept taught and that's not a crime.

It's even more irking to know that unnecessary pressure is placed on the kids in the name of preparing them. Things'll occur in their natural progression at the right time. Letting kids learn things that they'll learn later on as they progress in their level of education is still acceptable but what is clearly unacceptable is getting angry and annoyed with them when they can't get it. Of course they can't! They're learning things beyond their academic understanding at that particular point in time! That's unfair to them. You should at the very least make it simple to understand or tell them it's something new for their benefit.

Oh, I'm not a student if you think that I'm recounting my learning experiences as one. On the contrary, I'm a teacher myself and I use "unorthodox and unconventional" teaching methods. I encourage and praise kids for even the smallest things they can do. It's not done for the sake of getting them to do my work but with sincerity. I teach according to their needs. Oh, trust me, this makes a whole lot of difference. When the student's already pressurized in school or from other tutors, I make my lesson more relaxing and I'm not guilty about it.

I don't believe in forcing the kids to do work and absorb knowledge when they're tired or troubled. Instead I use the time to let them talk things out. Oh no, it's not a waste of time. Look, even if you force them, they won't absorb anything. Now that's wasting time! However, if you bother to even listen to them, you'll create rapport with them and gain their trust. Now that's a rare gift from teaching. I'm not the only one who practises this method too. A friend who's teaching in a school does too and she's faring well with her class. So there. What have you got to say?! Stop being so rigid in your ways man!

Another irksome thing done is when kids hear negative things about them. It's more sensible to say them when the kids are away, isn't it?! This is a rhetorical question so the answer's obvious. By saying it in front of them, you're 'killing' their spirit. They'll grow up thinking they're hopeless cases and develop an inferiority complex when it's totally untrue. I'm still trying to fight this mindset because I grew up in this 'murderous' environment. I don't want the kids under me to go through what I did.

Another taboo word is comparison. There's dissatisfaction and lack of appreciation at the efforts put in. It's not reverse psychology to spur them on but destruction of their fighting desire. Do you seriously think they'll know you're trying to make them prove you wrong?! Get out of here.

Oh, of course this shouldn't be applied to the teaching of music because that requires perfection and accuracy as far as possible. I'm perfectly aware of this because I'm in the music field too. Don't you worry about that!