Simone Heng posed these questions to her readers and this is my take on it.
I feel that love should be the essence of a marriage. With love, emotional intimacy comes in and that is more important than physical intimacy. The marriage will then be emotionally stable. As for monetary abundance, the man will be just like an bank account and he will resent it sooner or later. The lack of feelings for each other will adversely affect the children who will come into the picture, who will be born for lineage purposes rather than out of love.
If a person were to be simultaneously dating two partners, he or she should have the courtesy to choose one. The truth will hurt but that's being ethical and fair in love. The one who will be dumped will be angry and hurt, but at least he or she won't be deceived any longer. The one who will be lucky enough to be chosen will feel the same but will ultimately be relieved that he or she has become the only lover in the person's life.
Dating is not just a casual outing with someone but encompasses romantic feelings for that person too. One should not play with those feelings. Staying with the one you don't feel as much for as well, so as not to hurt him or her is not being benevolent but being insincere and unfaithful to two people. Your heart is not fully with one and is split between two. Thus, each one gets just half of it. Make it clear to both of them.
Keeping the two partners hidden from each other isn't going to work in the long run. The truth will always reign. Uncontrollable factors will come into the picture. It is very tiring having to make up stories to cover up for your whereabouts and to think of remote places to go to so as to avoid bumping into one another. Besides, Singapore is so small. Where can you run to? By the time hearts are broken, it will be too late to mend them and salvage the friendships.
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