I don't know if this is the mentality of the older generation but still it annoys me tremendously to see that the rod is used indiscriminatingly. When they feel they want to maintain their 'face' in front of others, they disregard the poor child's feelings and just fetch the cane. I wonder if they truly feel pain when they whack the child, as the adage goes.
I think reasoning works equally well when correcting a wrong. You don't even need to use a booming voice when doing so. It's more of whether the child understands your words, or else what he'll hear is only the loud volume of your scolding. So I use a soft and patient tone to correct him.
They seem to wonder why I get respected more than they do. Do they realise it's because of the differing methods used in disciplining? Children obviously respond better to a non-violent approach. In the end, they just appear foolish in the child's eyes.
Indeed, criticism is essential to the improvement of one's performance and the molding of one's character. However, there is a method of criticising so as to aid greater receptivity. With it should accompany praise to maintain a balance. Also, focus on the behaviour and not the child himself. The latter is difficult to achieve and it needs loving discernment.
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