Dr James Dobson has these enlightening tidbits in the newspapers on living life as it should be, though this concept in itself is subjective. I refer to one on comparisons amongst people.
I believe that this has been used as a tool of motivation by the older generation teachers. I myself am a living testimony. I have developed an inferiority complex and doubt my own abilites, even when people tell me my strengths. It is definitely NOT successful in being reverse psychology, spurring students on to prove people wrong in their belief of the students' incapabilities. It actually develops an inferiority complex in students. They won't know that the teachers mean to motivate them. They aren't adults! Dr Dobson mentioned that they will live up to these labels placed upon them instead. Parents and teachers, read this! I think those in charge of children should choose their words carefully when talking to them at least, if not about them to others!
It is also extremely frustrating when instead of understanding that the students have tried their best to achieve, teachers and parents too blame them for not achieving better than their peers. What is their problem??! I was really irritated when I was asked why I had only obtained a 3rd-class honours grade for my degree as compared to my classmate who had obtained an upper second-class honours grade. I could have just got a bachelor degree without honours or even have had to retake my papers, for goodness sake!! That is why I don't do this to my students. I don't want them to experience those same feelings I had when it was done to me. Instead I encourage them and show them their small but significant progresses.
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