Bestie-ism

It is heartening and joyous to note that I am still regarded as dependable by my bestie. Despite the lack of contact, I am thought of when feedback is required. It means that my opinions matter and you know what, they do! They were found useful :) Somehow, my conductor was right. If you love more than what is unexpected of you, people will know that you truly love them(paraphrased). My bestie knows that I try to be as supportive as I can and I try to make up for the times I am not.

Time does not = full knowledge

It is so sad how I still don't know my bestie even after so many years and how the full truth of things is required, as long as it is told with goodwill and for art's sake. If there was an inability to accept the full truth, the request would not have been put forth in the first place. Why do I need to get so uptight about it? After all, intertextuality is inevitable in art. As a Lit major, I should know!!

A novel way of communication between a married couple

I was watching an old Mediacorp drama serial and the couple were writing their deep feelings to each other in a journal, just after they had a quarrel. Each of them does so in private, for the other to read and reply.

It is indeed true that writing does enable one to express his/her hidden feelings, and this provides the couple with an opportunity to really understand each other's perspective about an issue.

I really find delight in this method of communication, as one's ability to express is definitely enhanced, and differences can be calmly and effectively sorted out.

The result of this method was that the couple learnt to be honest with their feelings and to express gratitude for small things. Most importantly, their sense of emotional intimacy was developed.

This method was used again after another quarrel. The husband used it to initiate an apology and show concern for his wife's well-being. When she read it, her face showed that she was touched by his entry and there was a little smile on her face. She then personally reconciled with him and they shared a hug. After that, he addressed the root problem and she responded in a positive manner.