A person's spirituality and importance attached to his faith is the foremost criterion. His looks is a factor far down on the list. I don't agree with the reasoning that it can divulge his character, albeit the accurate musings that have occurred. I feel that the former is a much more accurate lead to his character, besides his hobbies.
Am I being naive with such thinking? I think the values we place priority on are different, and it stems from the prior choices we made in life, as well as the importance we place on our spirituality. It may sound arrogant but this is what I truly feel.
Anyway, based on status quo, my opinion seems to be reinforced. Perhaps it may be a deliberate attempt to show a certain side which may not be real, but I doubt so. Nonetheless, I know God is the one leading. Period.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Sunday, August 1, 2010
Musicians are not recommended life-partners?!
An article on the types of men we should not bring home to our parents was featured. In it was Dai Yangtian's character in No Limits, the Mediacorp drama series shown at the moment. Wang Yule is a cellist who is reticent and emotionally reserved.
The reasoning is that musicians earn very little and thus cannot provide enough for their wives. I was saddened to read that. It is not just because I love the actor as well as this particular character, but because the two men I had serious feelings for are trained in music too. I guess I am different from women who look at the income level of their potential partners. That is a low priority on my criteria list.
To me, it gives pressure to men to be the sole provider of their new families. Taking care of the family should be a mutual task between the parents, I feel. Yes, it can equate to the men being the breadwinners and the women being the domestic supervisors. To me however, both parents can be breadwinners, notwithstanding the varying degrees. It is really the teamwork between the couple.
The reasoning is that musicians earn very little and thus cannot provide enough for their wives. I was saddened to read that. It is not just because I love the actor as well as this particular character, but because the two men I had serious feelings for are trained in music too. I guess I am different from women who look at the income level of their potential partners. That is a low priority on my criteria list.
To me, it gives pressure to men to be the sole provider of their new families. Taking care of the family should be a mutual task between the parents, I feel. Yes, it can equate to the men being the breadwinners and the women being the domestic supervisors. To me however, both parents can be breadwinners, notwithstanding the varying degrees. It is really the teamwork between the couple.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Material signs of love
Mariah Carey's husband buys a diamond ring for her on their annual wedding anniversary. Though he can afford it as a celebrity, it is not an accurate symbol of love.
Marriage is a sacred commitment a man and a woman make to each other, with God in the centre of it. Its love is constant and not based on emotion. Its love is a decision to stay faithful and loyal to each other. Buying a ring each year means having to ensure there is novelty in each upcoming design, contrary to this love marriage has.
Marriage is a sacred commitment a man and a woman make to each other, with God in the centre of it. Its love is constant and not based on emotion. Its love is a decision to stay faithful and loyal to each other. Buying a ring each year means having to ensure there is novelty in each upcoming design, contrary to this love marriage has.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Sincere vs devious labours of love
Cooking is a labour of love due to all the preparation and the effort involved, with sweat and tears(from cutting the onions) to accompany them.
I was watching the Rachel Ray show and there was an interview with Kim Khardashian. Kim has been involved in a long-time relationship with her boyfriend Reggie. Rachel asked if she loved to cook and she replied in the affirmative. She added that the reason why they have been together for so long is because of her cooking skills. Rachel ended the interview with the saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
The implication is that Kim schemed to keep Reggie by her side through her cooking. As she strives to improve it, she succeeds in retaining him as her boyfriend. This takes away the true meaning of cooking; the one I mentioned in the introduction. It seems as if there is no love and sincerity involved in cooking for him; but conscious deviousness for selfish reasons.
I cannot fathom ever trying to seduce my partner through cooking. I do cook for my loved ones but I do so with sincere feelings. I cook to share with them my favourite food or to cater to their liking for certain food, as simple as that. There are no complicated reasons or underlying motives.
I was watching the Rachel Ray show and there was an interview with Kim Khardashian. Kim has been involved in a long-time relationship with her boyfriend Reggie. Rachel asked if she loved to cook and she replied in the affirmative. She added that the reason why they have been together for so long is because of her cooking skills. Rachel ended the interview with the saying "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach".
The implication is that Kim schemed to keep Reggie by her side through her cooking. As she strives to improve it, she succeeds in retaining him as her boyfriend. This takes away the true meaning of cooking; the one I mentioned in the introduction. It seems as if there is no love and sincerity involved in cooking for him; but conscious deviousness for selfish reasons.
I cannot fathom ever trying to seduce my partner through cooking. I do cook for my loved ones but I do so with sincere feelings. I cook to share with them my favourite food or to cater to their liking for certain food, as simple as that. There are no complicated reasons or underlying motives.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Superficiality despite age
A woman featured in Urban for Valentine's Day had a particular approach towards maintaining her relationship which I find unbecoming and worldly. It is ironic how the writer termed her thought as "philosophical". She felt that in order to prevent infidelity, she should strive to preserve her looks and figure, besides other things.
Such things wear out with time. Being the older and supposedly wiser half in the relationship, this thought is certainly paradoxical. Even appearance-based beauty cannot conceal character flaws, should there be any. Could it stem from insecurity within her?
Such things wear out with time. Being the older and supposedly wiser half in the relationship, this thought is certainly paradoxical. Even appearance-based beauty cannot conceal character flaws, should there be any. Could it stem from insecurity within her?
Friday, February 19, 2010
Celebrating Valentine's Day
A feature in Urban showed alternatives to the traditional gifts men give women on that day. The alternatives are presented as stylish in taste and cater more to the modern generation who has no qualms about spending a lot on products. However, being from the generation-X batch, I have acquired a simpler attitude towards gift-giving on this day.
As an alternative to roses, heels with roses as the design and a fragrance with roses as one of the ingredients are suggested. What is wrong with the flower itself? It may be a cliched choice but it symbolises romance.
Besides heart-shaped jewellery, heart-shaped furniture and leather keychains have infiltrated the market. These are definitely more expensive and decadent choices. I personally prefer a simple and tiny silver heart pendant attached to a silver chain.
Folding paper stars is a very nostalgic deed for most adults. I have done a similar thing for a friend and to me, the very act of it speaks volumes of the emotion behind the effort. I guess I was inspired by the Japanese legend of the paper cranes. In contrast, a diamond necklace of stars and a certificate entitling one to owning a real star seem too easy to obtain. With money, they can be possessed. What then makes them treasured?
Spending time with the one you love no matter what is done together is the real issue. Who cares about having a couple pilate session? Just having a meal, shopping or sharing mutual thoughts is already spending time with each other. Much less or even no money is spent in the process. Of course, the other alternative of renting DVDs to watch at home is much more appealing.
Chocolates and candy are other traditional gifts on that day. Unusual flavours of cookies like Nasi Lemak and Hainanese Chicken Rice from The Cookie Museum, as well as ice-cream like Teh Tarik and Pulut Hitam from Island Creamery are suggested as alternative options. They are novel but the cookies sound repulsive to be frank. I don't like to receive chocolates as gifts but it is after all a gift that has been given from the very beginning. It befits the occasion.
As an alternative to roses, heels with roses as the design and a fragrance with roses as one of the ingredients are suggested. What is wrong with the flower itself? It may be a cliched choice but it symbolises romance.
Besides heart-shaped jewellery, heart-shaped furniture and leather keychains have infiltrated the market. These are definitely more expensive and decadent choices. I personally prefer a simple and tiny silver heart pendant attached to a silver chain.
Folding paper stars is a very nostalgic deed for most adults. I have done a similar thing for a friend and to me, the very act of it speaks volumes of the emotion behind the effort. I guess I was inspired by the Japanese legend of the paper cranes. In contrast, a diamond necklace of stars and a certificate entitling one to owning a real star seem too easy to obtain. With money, they can be possessed. What then makes them treasured?
Spending time with the one you love no matter what is done together is the real issue. Who cares about having a couple pilate session? Just having a meal, shopping or sharing mutual thoughts is already spending time with each other. Much less or even no money is spent in the process. Of course, the other alternative of renting DVDs to watch at home is much more appealing.
Chocolates and candy are other traditional gifts on that day. Unusual flavours of cookies like Nasi Lemak and Hainanese Chicken Rice from The Cookie Museum, as well as ice-cream like Teh Tarik and Pulut Hitam from Island Creamery are suggested as alternative options. They are novel but the cookies sound repulsive to be frank. I don't like to receive chocolates as gifts but it is after all a gift that has been given from the very beginning. It befits the occasion.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Reasons for a vocation
Ms Arivalagan is studying to become a doctor and she gave up a well-paying job to do so. She also decided to sacrifice some years for the degree. Her reason is to make the lives of people better through this vocation of hers, and it is this that heartens me.
I have learnt a lot from my seniors in my journey as a teacher. I am aware that there are trainees who choose to teach for worldly and monetary reasons. These people are the black sheep in my book of vocation seekers. They will be banes for our young when they graduate, or rather, if they do.
Reading about her worldly friends who advise her against following her dream of being a doctor just makes them seem repulsive to me. They cite her as being "naive" and far from having seen the "real" world. She may be naive but she is at least taking the step to see the real world, and not staying in her comfort zone like they are. The real world is not made up of multi-national corporations and high salaries, but human communities filled with love and charity, amidst different social rankings. Thus, go for it Alicia!
On the contrary, I am absolutely indignant with a doctor from China who treats the death of her patients lightly. She actually was happy that the worsened condition of her patient had happened during her day off and she implied that she would rather not be there at her patient's side should he die. It smacks of irresponsibility. To make things worse, she rejoiced in the death of a patient which had occurred, as it enabled her to have a lighter workload.
She then fervently denied her involvement in these comments after they were pervasively revealed on the Internet and the hospital authorities found out about them. What do you expect from such a coward? She dared to make those comments and then when she got verbal attacks for them as well as found out, she quickly disassociated herself from them. I am glad that she has been degraded to another department. She deserves to be.
I don't think she deserves sympathy for the job hazards she has to go through. I have friends who are doctors and though their sleep patterns are affected due to the nature of their job, they are compassionate towards their patients. Some of them are working mothers too. There is no excuse for this doctor from China. She may be honest in giving those comments but it is not appreciated where human sensitivities are concerned. Perhaps other doctors do feel the same way but they know better than to reveal their true feelings to the public! It is not being hypocritical but being sensitive to society, by the way. After all, they are serving society.
I have learnt a lot from my seniors in my journey as a teacher. I am aware that there are trainees who choose to teach for worldly and monetary reasons. These people are the black sheep in my book of vocation seekers. They will be banes for our young when they graduate, or rather, if they do.
Reading about her worldly friends who advise her against following her dream of being a doctor just makes them seem repulsive to me. They cite her as being "naive" and far from having seen the "real" world. She may be naive but she is at least taking the step to see the real world, and not staying in her comfort zone like they are. The real world is not made up of multi-national corporations and high salaries, but human communities filled with love and charity, amidst different social rankings. Thus, go for it Alicia!
On the contrary, I am absolutely indignant with a doctor from China who treats the death of her patients lightly. She actually was happy that the worsened condition of her patient had happened during her day off and she implied that she would rather not be there at her patient's side should he die. It smacks of irresponsibility. To make things worse, she rejoiced in the death of a patient which had occurred, as it enabled her to have a lighter workload.
She then fervently denied her involvement in these comments after they were pervasively revealed on the Internet and the hospital authorities found out about them. What do you expect from such a coward? She dared to make those comments and then when she got verbal attacks for them as well as found out, she quickly disassociated herself from them. I am glad that she has been degraded to another department. She deserves to be.
I don't think she deserves sympathy for the job hazards she has to go through. I have friends who are doctors and though their sleep patterns are affected due to the nature of their job, they are compassionate towards their patients. Some of them are working mothers too. There is no excuse for this doctor from China. She may be honest in giving those comments but it is not appreciated where human sensitivities are concerned. Perhaps other doctors do feel the same way but they know better than to reveal their true feelings to the public! It is not being hypocritical but being sensitive to society, by the way. After all, they are serving society.
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