A wedding after my own heart

I attended an old friend's wedding mass and it was the second wedding that made me teary in all the weddings I have attended.  As I saw her enter the church, I felt as if my childhood friend was getting married. It really meant a lot to be invited to it.

Marrying a Eurasian meant that certain traditions would reflect the culture. As my friend walked up the aisle, I was blown away by her bridesmaids' dresses. The dresses' closest colour I can think of is light bronze, and they had lace sleeves and hemlines. The length was till the knees. They looked like vintage cocktail dresses!
When my friend walked in, I was in love with her wedding gown. It had similar lace sleeves with a lace neckline, and looked like a ballgown. I liked her traditional costume too. It had colours of pink and purple. I especially liked her pearl jewellery set which complemented the costume :)

The hymns were traditional and the readings were meaningful. The first reading was one that was close to my heart, taken from the Song of Songs book. That book is a love song between God and Man, in the same way that a man should love a woman. It really was a wedding that had love and friendship. It was good seeing her parents and rejoicing together with them. I also liked catching up with some friends during the reception :)

Social relationships

In the process of human relationships, there may be conflicts. I must learn how to be calm and diplomatic in the midst of confrontation. This definitely stems from the regular introspection towards life that one has.

It makes a difference when a hug means initiating peace with and releasing a grudge/judgement against the very person I hug. :)

You

A dream, doing anything for you, grabbing rare time with u
A glimpse, confirmation of you, another glimpse. Missed.
Besties, apart; separate, special within me.
Your happiness, my guide, my strength.

My secret place, realization
Time and age, differing ways
Detailed knowledge, maintained ranking
Inspired by you, my hero
Peace, joy, smiles.

Superficial conversations

I really cringed at a superficial chat I had on the phone. I was thinking of shallow topics to bring up in order to fill the conversation. I also felt that I was displaying insincere compromising in my opinions. This is due to a lesson I learnt, that some people don't like to be disagreed with.

It got so bad that I had to deliberately look at the time and remark that time had passed so quickly. That ended the conversation. Phew!

At the same time, I don't enjoy deliberate conversations which border on what I am doing at that moment or where I am going to eat at for my meals. They get on my nerves and sometimes I purposely use a cold tone to answer them :S

Bestie-ism

It is heartening and joyous to note that I am still regarded as dependable by my bestie. Despite the lack of contact, I am thought of when feedback is required. It means that my opinions matter and you know what, they do! They were found useful :) Somehow, my conductor was right. If you love more than what is unexpected of you, people will know that you truly love them(paraphrased). My bestie knows that I try to be as supportive as I can and I try to make up for the times I am not.

Time does not = full knowledge

It is so sad how I still don't know my bestie even after so many years and how the full truth of things is required, as long as it is told with goodwill and for art's sake. If there was an inability to accept the full truth, the request would not have been put forth in the first place. Why do I need to get so uptight about it? After all, intertextuality is inevitable in art. As a Lit major, I should know!!

A novel way of communication between a married couple

I was watching an old Mediacorp drama serial and the couple were writing their deep feelings to each other in a journal, just after they had a quarrel. Each of them does so in private, for the other to read and reply.

It is indeed true that writing does enable one to express his/her hidden feelings, and this provides the couple with an opportunity to really understand each other's perspective about an issue.

I really find delight in this method of communication, as one's ability to express is definitely enhanced, and differences can be calmly and effectively sorted out.

The result of this method was that the couple learnt to be honest with their feelings and to express gratitude for small things. Most importantly, their sense of emotional intimacy was developed.

This method was used again after another quarrel. The husband used it to initiate an apology and show concern for his wife's well-being. When she read it, her face showed that she was touched by his entry and there was a little smile on her face. She then personally reconciled with him and they shared a hug. After that, he addressed the root problem and she responded in a positive manner.